Life after divorce: Men almost always get ripped off, stripped of almost all they own.
Yesterday I came across this photo from about three years ago, and roughly right after the divorce. Looking at this photo had me thinking about the costs of marriage and divorce. Some of those costs are directly my fault for making dumb decisions such as leaving my (physical home) in Michigan. It was a wonderful home. I certainly was not completely responsible for the divorce though, her and I discussed many things after the divorce via the phone. I’ve not heard from her in almost one year now which I am completely OK with.
So what are the costs? I don’t know which is worse, the mental/emotional strain or the loss of a great deal of money which included a $40,000 car. Or is it the $24,000 in Alimony I was forced to pay for two years as Nevada is an Alimony state, Michigan, my home state is NOT an Alimony state. Lovely. My mother and her got along famously, my father never liked her and made no secret about it. In the end though, he was correct. I was being taken for a very expensive ride and didn’t see it for what it was. These days, I am scared to death about the possibility of meeting women and simply refrain from it all together.
I am simply too damaged after three divorces…
Going forward, I have zero plans of finding myself in another relationship. It’s just not worth it man. Taking stock yesterday of where I am today, I am incredibly blessed to have a house again and in a city that I really love, sans the damned traffic. My finances have improved greatly and so has my overall attitude and perception for the future. In short, as compared to then, I am probably the luckiest, most blessed and happiest man in Las Vegas. The future is clear. I have a ‘clean slate’ to begin again. It’s just unfortunate that I’ve arrived at this happy place at this point in life but hey, life goes on! My wonderful single life!